Comments on: Poptimism? Optimissism? Pessimoptisistic?

By: Nancy Rector

Nancy Rector — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 13:04:59 +0000

My wedding cost $200… I think. $50 cake, $50 to make my own dress…reception at parents house. My dad took photos. I was 18 and thought it was great. Now 50 and married 31 years… still think it was pretty great. Ü Can’t wait for the book!

Nancy

By: Blackie

Blackie — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 18:39:39 +0000

I’ll buy it if you write it. Love your stuff.

On the publishing front, check with Uncle Wil (http://wilwheaton.typepad.com/). He has done exactly what you are talking about and done by himself and with a publisher. He is currently self publishing and even making low cost pdf’s that seem to be working.
Give him a yell, I’m pretty sure he’ll have ideas and tips.

On the wedding front, I have done it at both extremes, schmancy church wedding and 20 minutes in a judges office at a courthouse. The courthouse one actually lasted longer…

Really like the hire a local and give them a trip and the college student/new photog ideas.

Good luck with the ceremony and book. I’m sure there will be great stories from both.

By: Incredipete

Incredipete — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 22:45:25 +0000

As someone who is an on-again-off-again wedding photographer, I can tell you that I enjoy dry raping happy couples as hard as I possibly can.

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 20:47:14 +0000

I know this may have very little to do with your book theme but you’ve got to include the cat stories, which are some of the laugh-out loud funniest that I’ve read in your blog over the years. Some kind of appendix or something.

Amy

By: Donoman

Donoman — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 13:36:48 +0000

That’s nothing, I’m a photographer and I shot my own wedding. You should have seen the bill I gave myself so our parents could pay me to see the photographs.

Now I charge them a “Grandparents Fee” to see the kids. This can really work in your favor if you play your cards right.

By: Blunderman

Blunderman — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 00:45:20 +0000

You can use my title “Upbeat Manifesto” for your novel, but only if your main motivation is to help people and make them laugh. You’ve done a good job so far, and I’d hate to see this done just for the dough.

The entertainment industry has made me paranoid of such behavior.

If I was wealthy enough, I’d fund things like this myself.

By: Jayme M.

Jayme M. — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 21:20:36 +0000

-insert rant here-

I have a similar feeling concerning the use of the word “drama” in modern times. Often times, Person B calls Person A “dramatic” simply because Person A called Person B out about something shitty/generally ridiculous/retarded Person B did.

When did it become dramatic to express a feeling of general discontentment and hurt? When did not saying anything and being a throw mat become the only publicly acceptable way of expressing emotion? Total bullocks.

As such I’ve decided that “dramatic” simply means expressing a feeling that the other person feels is unnecessary and/or confrontational because it’s actually true. Bunch o’ pansies.

p.s. Congrats on writing the book. It should be fantastic. Also, showing a “loyal following” sounds like a good idea *points to Steve P.*

By: justmouse (or Chaosmomm..whatever)

justmouse (or Chaosmomm..whatever) — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 15:46:03 +0000

“no. I would never marry a retard.” Best line EVER.

By: Steve P.

Steve P. — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 10:12:32 +0000

One, more indirect, way we might be able to help you out with the book is by helping in your prospectus. If you can show the publishers you’ve got a loyal following (and the book is the right length and in the right market, etc.), I think you’ve got a good shot of getting it published by a large company if that’s what you’re into.

By: Bailey

Bailey — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 01:12:19 +0000

For the book, could you maybe give an example of what kind of story you’re looking for? It’s not some kind of Chicken Soup for the Soul sort of thing is it? I wouldn’t think you’d write something like that, but then again you are in love and you have a cat, so maybe you’re only crunchy on the outside.

With wedding photography you have two choices – have someone you know and/or guests take all the photos and save lots of money, and possibly have only crappy photos to remember one of the (hopefully) best days of your life, or pay a really good photographer a lot of money to do it right. I picked having a friend do it and got lucky – but only because there were other people with really good cameras at the wedding taking pictures, and I still wish we had a few more professional shots. It sounds like you’re doing things right, and all the money you’re saving by not doing a lot of the traditional (and stupid) wedding stuff is well spent on good photos.

Good luck; have a great wedding and honeymoon!